Feb 042009

To the Editor:

When I was a school counselor intern in a public school in Indiana, I was told by the school social worker not to interfere in the case of a certain young woman contemplating an abortion. Apparently, the social worker had been meeting with both the parents and the student and the decision to have an abortion was already made. I can still remember how disappointed I was in their decision, due to my pro-life stance. I have never encountered a similar situation and have left counseling altogether.

The point is, regardless of how much we legislate, pray, point fingers or try to influence others, abortions will continue to happen. Even with our own good intentions as pro-life advocates, we cannot dictate someone else’s free choice. The only way we can make a difference is to work with other pro-life advocates in showing compassion for the poor and desperate woman. This can be accomplished by providing adequate healthcare to women and children and by supporting childcare systems and user-friendly adoption procedures.

The only regret I have after all these years was not being able to talk to the young woman before the final decision. I wish I could have said, “Aren’t you glad your mother chose life?”

Jim Harder


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